Who said it is bad to fail?

Who said it is bad to fail?

I have wondered and thought for some time now and have asked myself this question; who said it is bad to fail?

I have been opportune to read the biography of some great men and women, what I saw were so revealing and insightful. All of these great men and women had failed one time or the other in their lives and the failure was never a hindrance to fulfilling their goals in life.

If failing is bad, why were we sent to school and given teachers? I guess is for us to bring our ignorance in exchange for knowledge and what is the need of correction if there is no failing. I think the best students are those who fail fast and then do the corrections.

What good will it be if a student doesn’t want to fail a test and then avoid it? If he does, he will not fail the text but he in himself has failed already but the one who did the text and failed it, took the correction is 100 times better than the one who avoided it because he doesn’t want to fail.

What is it about failing that people are scared of? I will better love to fail than to be the “best average.” My friend’s, life is too short to spend it being average. Go to school get a job that can pay the bills, or open a business, get profits that can sustain you and the business.  Living life on the average side is more dangerous than to fail in a fast successful venture.

The key to greatness is to fail fast and fail forward. Learn all the lesions to be learnt and then put yourself together and stamp your name in the archive of greatness, if you don’t believe this go ask Abraham Lincoln.

I dare you to look at that thing you are afraid to do because you don’t want to fail and tell it to its face “I will succeed or die trying!” Not doing it at all is the biggest failure you can ever think of.

I will dare you to live your biggest dream for the world to know that I you came and tried, than to be average that the world will barely know you was here.

Failing is one of the fastest route to success only if you don’t quit, go fail fast and fail forward and achieve your dreams!

Felix Smith Aigbonohan

Peak performance Coach, RazorEdge Coaching

www.maximumperformancecoach.com

Learn The Genius way to Receive anything anything!

Learn The Genius way to Receive anything!

Asking can either be inquire about or making a request or demanding something. Until you ask questions, you are not entitled to get an answers and asking the right question is what is most important.

In the journey of life it is important we keep asking questions from the right sources along the way, otherwise it will take us longer time to get to our destination. One of the greatest secrets of a genus is his ability to ask the right question. ‘Why’ a very important word that we should not take for granted because it is the root of all discoveries, it opens up channel to receive answers from people and from the divine. If we must work in the part of self development and self discovery,  the first principle to right living is; man know thy self.

People don’t  ask questions because some are afraid of the answer they will get, some think they will not be answered, while others do not see the need to ask as they think they can always get the answers to life’s issues. When I was much younger, there were certain questions I will ask and was told I don’t need to know that now, that in itself can be discouragement to asking questions.

Apart from asking questions, there are many other things we can ask for; help, assistance, more time, guidance, protection, peace , mercy and blessings from the divine, those things we cannot buy with money should be asked  from the source where it comes from, God.

“You get in life what you have the courage to ask for”- Oprah Winfery

Asking is the cheapest way to receive because it transfers bulk of the responsibility to the giver; you are just in the other end of receiving. People find it difficult in this information age to “google-lise” things, no matter the hundreds of millions of answers google has concerning a topic, it does not bring it out until you ask!

“Ask and it shall be given unto you…..He that ask receives”-Jesus

Learn to seek

Seeking is trying to get reach, locate or discover something; it is a higher level of asking. It is basically searching. Seeking is different from asking though, in this one, you discover and not receive, and bulk of the responsibility is with the seeker.

The help you get when seeking is assistance and guidance, to persist until you discover the answer. There is more joy when a man fined what he seeks. True legends are seekers!

“The truth is not for all men but only for those who seek it”- Ayn Rand

Asking and seeking are two great tools that can help in the process of unlocking the greatness that is within us. As you seek to know more of yourself, the world around you and the truth, then the great mind in you becomes activated; the result is answers and discoveries.

“We cannot live better than in seeking to become better”- Socrates

Become the “better you” each passing day!

Felix Smith Aigbonohan.

Peak performance coach

CEO, RAZOREDGE Coaching

www.maximumperformancecoach.com

The price for success

The price for success

Like every other valuable thing, success comes with a price.

Successful people are those who are willing to pay the price not minding the cost.

“Price is what you pay value Is what you get”- warren Buffelt

There are two ways to life as things are created in pairs and one is mostly the opposite of the other. For example, head and tale, front and back, up and down, give and take, seed and harvest, love and hate, friend and enemy, and rich and poor.

Everything comes in his pair, most of our body parts are in pairs too. This law tells us something that is very important, which is; life does not have middle position, it is ‘either this or that’.

It is either you are a success or a failure or you are great or not. Average is not a position because we must understand that nothing is at the state of rest in the universe. The universe is made of energy and this energy is in a constant vibrating motion, even the laws of physics are in support of this, let me not bore you with it, but know that life is in motion as the earth also is. It is either you are moving forward or going backward, progressing or retrogressing, as there is nothing as middle class.

What you are doing today is an indicator of your present position and your constant movement either to success or failure. Success and failure are not destinations but paths.

Tell tails to know the path you are in

Who are your friends?

What is your attitude towards life?

How long do you sleep?

What will you give up for self gratification?

What do you value most in life?

Who do you look up to in life, your mentors?

What is your value for work?

What are you doing right now that will contribute to your ultimate goal in life?

Answering these questions will tell you the position you are and show you were you are going. Understand in the words of Leonardo Davicin “God sells us all things at the price of labor”

Go get yours!

Felix Smith Aigbonohan.

Peak performance coach

CEO, RAZOREDGE Coaching

www.maximumperformancecoach.com

Overcome these things and WIN!

Overcome these things and WIN!

Emotions

To be emotional means to be determined or actuated by emotion rather than reason. Emotion is an integral part of our lives which plays many roles, both positive and negative.

I have read a lot of articles about emotional management and emotional intelligence, there seem to be some argument by some psychologists about if emotions should be labeled as ‘positive and negative’. Some school of thought argued that it should be labeled supportive and non-supportive emotions because there are times were those emotions that are labeled negative, like pessimism can be useful and in the same manner optimism might pose danger to someone in another instance. For example, people who gamble are so optimistic of winning and they never quite that habit, hoping to win someday, until he start to see in another light that the chances of winning are low (pessimistic).

Therefore in this article I will be using supportive and non-supportive emotions rather than positive or negative.

Non-supportive emotions are caused by our response to external stimuli; someone said something that resulted in you getting angry, you have seen so many people fail in a venture we start doubting if can succeed, people that you are better than have gotten what we are still striving to get and we become envious and jealous etc. These are all our responses to an event. What has happened, i.e. the event cannot produce a non-supportive emotions in us but it’s our response to an event that does.

 We can’t control what people’s actions will be but we can certainly control our reaction.

There is a law in physics that states “for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction”

In human beings this reactions are not predetermined like in other objects under the laws of physics, we can choose to react in any possible away positively or negatively.

Noon-supportive emotions can be dangerous to us in our quest of greatness, it might not hinder us from going up now, but it will certainly bring us down later. There are great men in the books of history that these noon-supportive emotions brought down. An example is the emotion of fear which tops the list of non-supportive emotions, this is very dangerous in the race of success and greatness because the law of attraction is a universal law that cannot be broken, you must know that we attract our faith and fears also whatever you focus on expands and increases.

“For the thing I greatly feared is come upon me, and that which I was afraid of is come upon me”- Job 3:25.

Unsupported emotions can create negative atmosphere, cause you to be unproductive, it can lead to imbalance in the human system which can lead to ill health and can result in the loss of relationship, job, sanity and reputation. All of these can defiantly not lead to unlocking the greatness that is in you.

You can learn to control your emotions by;

Choosing your response/reactions before you act or say anything

Talk about your turn offs with friend and colleagues so they might avoid it

Try to point out and deal with issues instantly as they arise, don’t keep them in your mind for too long.

Talk with someone (a friend) about how you feel and deal with the hidden noon-supportive emotions. A coach will be better so that you can be serious about it, unlike with a friend who might be biased in his/her judgment.

You are sure to be in the right path of greatness when you do these things and keep yourself committed to always choose your response to other people’s actions from today. I am solidly behind you in this journey of unlocking the greatness that is with you.

Felix Smith Aigbonohan

Peak performance coach

CEO, RAZOREDGE Coaching

www.maximumperformancecoach.com.

Building capacity to Love

“The true essence of love is not to love those who will reciprocate it but it’s to those who don’t deserve it”. Felix Smith A.

If you read my previous post on Buildingcapacity for tolerance, you would understood the power of loving others when they don’t deserve it. Love is not a feeling but a decision therefore there is no one we can’t love if only we decide to.

I know there are some people you meet for the very first time and your spirit does not even connect with them and there are others that their behavior is nothing to write home about but these notwithstanding are not strong enough compared with the power of love; the greatest force in the universe.

There is no barrier hard enough and there is no man strong enough that love can not break. Love is the utmost of all supportive emotions.

“Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy to a friend”- Martin Luther King

If a man seek greatness and has no love is like some running after shadows. Love is the foundation of human existence; it is the cord that holds everything together. In business without love for your staff and customers, in meeting people needs then profit become like stealing from them.

“Love and compassion are necessities not luxuries, without them humanity cannot survive”- Dalai Lama

“It is not the magnitude of your action but the amount of love put into them that matters”- Mother Teresa

The best way anyone can learn, take correction, or even punishment is when it’s done with love. As the head of department, an employer or employee, you need love to be able to maximize your effectiveness.

“Love the people with whom fate brings you together, but do so with all your heart”-Unknown

You can give help, assist others without loving them but you can't love without giving, giving to your world. The greatest ideas that man has ever invented was those born out of love to help others ease life or processes of how things are done. Love is an expression of the divine in the natural, it is living life from your higher self, and the parts of you were genus lies and greatness hidden.

“Love is like flower, you have got to let it grow”- John lennon

I encourage you to build capacity to love; it is the surest and fastest way to achieving whatever you desire. A sincere love for people is more than having a Talent.

“Jesus said unto him, thou shall love the Lord your God with all your heart……This is the first and great commandment and the second is like unto it, thou shall love your neighbor as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the law and prophets”- Matthew 22:37-40

No height is too high for you to scale through as you make up your mind to love other no matter the case…..you’ll become greatness unveiled!

Felix Smith Aigbonohan.

Peak performance coach

CEO, RAZOREDGE Coaching

www.maximumperformancecoach.com